Rolanda Perkins

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear” …Nelson Mandela  For years I experienced this in my life. For a long time, I felt like I was married to it because it seemed to control every fiber of my being. I went to bed with it, I woke up with it, I took it to work with me, I’ve even let it influence lots of important decisions in my life. Basically I let it take control over a good portion of my life until  I decided  to FIGHT back against it!! It wasn’t easy, but it was  very  necessary if I was to move forward and prosper in life. Unfortunately, prior to me deciding to fight back, I let it stop me from accomplishing many wonderful things in life.  I finally realized that I had one of two choices: (1) Continue to live in Fear and miss out on so many wonderful things in life, or (2) “ Suck it up Buttercup & do it while experiencing the fear...

When was the last time that you loved on yourself? When was the last time that you told yourself how  beautiful you are; the last time that you praised yourself for the talents that you’ve been blessed with; the last time that you acknowledged your creativity; the last time that you patted yourself on the back for something great that you did; the last time that you looked in the mirror and fell in love with YOU… not because of your outward beauty but because of the beauty that you feel resonating from within.  OH! You don’t remember the last time?? Is it because those are not things that you’re in the habit of saying to or about yourself? Are you instead, in the habit of acknowledging all of your faults, your mistakes, your shortcomings, your insecurities, the problems in your life? Do you tend to beat yourself down and say demeaning things like, “I am so FAT…”; “I’m unhealthy“; “I am not worthy”; “I’m so slow”; “I am not as smart as…”; “I’m certainly not qualified to…”; ...

“My struggle IS real & it’s been an emotional roller coaster at times.” When I was hosting, ‘The Beat Goes On’ radio show from 2014-2018, I would often reference, ‘The Struggle being REAL’ in reference to my weight and physical health. What I didn’t realize at the time was that those challenges didn’t deal with my physical health , like I thought .  Instead, I finally had an epiphany & realized that the ‘ Struggle ’ I often spoke of, had more to do with my Mental Health than it did anything else! Conversations about Mental Health are not often referenced in a positive light, which is why many people have a hard time seeking the needed help to maintain a healthy mental balance in life . Along my journey, I’ve struggled with battles that would plague my mind about my health and well-being. I would accept, receive and believe all the negative & judgmental thoughts, the scrutiny, the demeaning words, the ‘put downs’, & the ugly criticisms that oftentimes ran amu...