Rolanda Perkins

  … This is a legend of unknown origin  “An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It’s a terrible fight and it’s between two wolves. One is evil – he is Anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – He’s joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?” The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you FEED.” Who  have you been feeding in your life? 

Last year on JAN the 19 th   my Dad Transitioned from this life. As a result of his transitioning, it forced a lot of our family dynamics to change. Today is the day that the Presidential transition takes place. The President-elect of the US will take over the administration from the incumbent president, signifying a transfer of power. Whenever this happens, there are always changes made by the President elect that we must adapt to. When we think about Transitional words or phrases, we know that they can be used to clarify the relationship between sentences. They often help one sentence move, or flow smoothly into another sentence.   In reference to my examples of Transitions, they all have one thing in common… MOVEMENT . When I did a search for the word  ‘Transition’, it was defined as a  Movement, Passage, or Change from One Position to Another . This made me reflect on different transitional moments in my life and how there were times when I had to move even when I did not want or c

As I was meditating the other day, I reflected back on conversations I’ve had in the past with Sistah’s who’ve felt ‘broken’ and beat down because of life’s experiences. One common denominator that I realized those Sistah’s struggled with was forgiving themselves for things that happened in their past. It could be things that they’ve done, or things that were done to them. Either way, the struggle was with, not forgiving themselves.  I understood exactly how they felt because I too struggled with forgiving myself in the past. One day, a wise Lady brought to my attention that this was something I needed to do to free myself of past mistakes and hurts. She explained that I needed to extend compassion to myself and forgive,  me . She further explained that people quite often fail to realize that Forgiveness is not just for us to extend to others, but that it’s also for  us  to extend to ourselves as well…  with compassion .  This made me stop in my tracks because I hadn’t thought about th

Last year made me realize just how short life really is so I know that I will be incorporating less stress and a lot more self-care in the days and months to come. What does  SELF-CARE  mean to  you ? It can mean different things to different people. My advice is to  find what works for you and do that!  For me, self-care means that I’m not just focusing on one aspect of my being, but that I’m trying to maintain a balance in my life by taking care of all aspects of my wellbeing. This can include so many different things and look so many different ways.  If you want to learn ways to focus on your self-care, a  google  search will yield many ways in which you can practice caring for yourself this year. I know this to be a very important aspect in  my  own health so I’ve adapted it as part of my lifestyle.  So here’s wishing you a healthy, happy and prosperous new year with lots of self-care sprinkled in.