Rolanda Perkins

  Have you ever read the poem by Marianne Williamson called, " Our Deepest Fear "? If not, I would encourage you to find it and read it at least once! It inspired me back in 2006 the first time that I heard it while watching the movie,  Akeelah and the Bee . At that time I decided to learn & commit it to memory because it spoke directly to ME! Today, I recite it aloud to remind myself of the extraordinary person that God's created me to be with all of my flaws, insecurities and idiosyncrasies. That poem was a part of my healing process whenever I needed to get past any insecure feelings that plagued my mind. I would quote it over and over until whatever negative feeling(s) I had, subsided.  The reason I mentioned this poem is because I can relate to others who are sometimes down on themselves and need that boost, or 'pick me up'. This is one of my 'go tos', and if it can help someone break through negative thoughts about themselves, then it was well wo...

So what happens when someone else hurts us? What now? What do you do from there? We've probably all been hurt at some point in our lives. But after that happens, now what? Do we hold onto the hurt/offense? Do we allow ourselves to fall apart? Do we stay stuck in that moment longer than we should? Truth be told, we've probably all done some or ALL of those things before. I know that I have. At times I even let it consume me because I wanted to hold onto the anger just a tad bit longer until I got it all out of my system. MAN! What a total waste of MY emotional energy!! That actually caused me more stress & sickness in my mind and in my body than I realized at the time.  A good friend of mine suggests that when I have these types of feelings, I should go ahead and feel it, embrace it and then make the decision to move past it! WHY?  Because the decision is ultimately MY decision to make and I can choose to hold onto the hurt/offense, sulk and get entangled in it, or I can ch...

  On September 11th 2005, I was informed that I was having a Heart Attack. My entire life quickly changed  in the blink of an eye . I didn't expect it and I definitely wasn't prepared for it! There were so many uncertainties at that time in my life. I really didn't even have time to digest the information that had been presented to me. Life as I knew it would quickly change and I would have to learn to adapt to a ' new norm '. At that time, I could have chosen to become angry and ask, " WHY  did this happen &  WHY  did it happen to  ME ?" Instead, I was very perplexed & confused and asked  myself , " HOW  did this happen"? I needed to know WHAT was the cause of this unwelcomed trauma that slithered into my life.  I needed answers !!! After taking time to reflect on the events leading up to the Heart Attack, I quickly discovered that there was an active role that I played in the occurrence of this Heart event. " WAIT "! " WH...

Like so many of us in life, we've experienced some type of adversity. It's not fun and we don't like it, but as we experience adversity, we're also experiencing growth. That might sound like an oxymoron but think about it. Think of a time where you fought and struggled so hard and thought that you would NEVER pull through. A time when you were in so much pain, (mentally & physically) that it was unbearable. It could have been a struggle in your health, your finances, your family, and even your faith.  Situations in life sometimes take us through a gamut of dramatic emotions and leave us feeling like we're at our lowest point. It's even difficult sometimes to see how we can pull ourselves out of certain circumstances. Oftentimes we feel like we're not going to make it. We might have gained some bumps and scrapes and battle scars in the process, but inevitably, we often pull through those tough times and on the other side of the adversity... we've emer...